Does this sound familiar?

  • Every time you reach a goal, the feeling you expected is gone within a minute. 

  • You’re the strong one who always has the answers, but there's no safe space for you.

  • People admire your life, but they have no idea how lonely it feels in your skin. 

  • You can’t remember the last time you laughed your head off.

  • You’re surrounded by many people, yet you lack genuine connection. 

  • Your life is rich in experience, wins and events, but something is still missing inside.

  • Whatever you do to feel better only helps for a while.

  • You're fed up with all of this, and you want to experience plain, pure, real joy.

Where it all begins

Based on what I saw during thousands of sessions in my subconscious, our internal system is extremely clever in making us accepted as babies and children. Because we need to be accepted by our caregivers to survive. 


So when our personality trait or emotion is rejected, our system quickly makes us resist the part of us that holds that trait or emotion. It also makes us pefer the parts of us that are accepted or appreciated.


Over the years of growing up, we suppress many parts of ourselves and build many survival strategies. It helps us survive, or even become successful. But it doesn't feel like happiness, wholeness or joy.

That’s where Un-Circling™ comes in.

What is Un-Circling™?

Un-Circling™ is the process for ending outdated survival strategies and bringing your resisted parts from your subconscious to consciousness. One part at the time. On the way to that part, you also resolve the layers of resistance and the energy once spent on creating them, becomes available again. 

Step by step your life is run less and less by survival strategies which makes you feel more alive, whole, happy and joyful.

This is my own model, built from my inner work. It is not a proven scientific theory.

What might change

Each completed Un-Circling™ brings shift - sometimes subtle, sometimes more tangible. But - in my experience - it is lasting. However, as every person is different, I don’t promise any particular result. 

I encourage you to use Un-Circling™ anytime you feel the urge to do it. Your inner intellligence is the most reliable guide. That’s why I not only guide you through this process but also teach and support you in doing it on your own in the future. 

As Un-Circling™ is relatively new, here is what I have noticed after sessions so far - not a track record:

  • More inner calm and energy
  • Resilience built on true self-confidence, not bypassing
  • A rise in natural authority 
  • The ability to feel true enjoyment
  • Reactions more proportionate to the situation
  • Outdated patterns and beliefs fading away
  • More compassion for yourself and others
  • Improved self-understanding
  • Deeper connection to yourself and others

"Three days after Un-Circling, I changed a decision I had made a few days before the session, and it was about exactly my theme. Before the session, I had decided the way things should be done and the way others would like it. But after the session, it came to me: BUT THIS IS HOW I WOULD LIKE IT. Thank you, Ali, for your sensitive and perceptive guidance."

M. K., therapist

“Under your guidance, I felt very comfortable and safe, and I trusted you completely. Since Un-Circling, I’m calmer, and the people close to me have noticed that some things have stopped bothering me. It’s as if I had more energy.”

Zuzana, teacher

"After Un-Circling, I was able to reach out to my mum and invite her over without any expectations. Also, I’m calmer when going through any kind of difficulty, and less reactive."

Z. M., end-of-life doula

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How  the Un-Circling Process™ works

  • 1. Identification Session

    We identify the survival strategies blocking your joy, and confirm together whether Un-Circling™ is right for you.

  • 2. Un-Circling™ Session

    We go through the layers of your protective resistance, find the rejected part of you and let it return to your consciousness. 

  • 3. Next Chapter Session

    We map the shifts and recap Un-Circling™, and you receive a written guide so you can use it on your own whenever you need it.

Questions you might be asking

Is this confidential? 

Yes. Confidentiality and trust are central to my work, both because of my personal and professional ethics and because this process goes to very private places. I don't share what you tell me, but I keep session notes for seven years, as my professional insurance requires. The one exception is if I believe you or someone else is at serious risk.

Is this therapy?

No. Un-Circling™ is a personal development process. It isn't a replacement for medical, psychological or psychiatric care. See the page on who it is and isn't suitable for.

What if I've already tried coaching, or personal development?

Many of my clients have.

Un-Circling™ is not about gaining more insight or managing symptoms more effectively.

Instead of focusing on symptoms, it focuses on their source. It goes directly to the root and completes it.

Once the source no longer exists, the symptoms often disappear as well, along with the need to manage, analyse, or work around them.

If you're in therapy now, please tell me, and keep going with it.

What if I don't know what's blocking me?

That's very common. Most of us only notice the outside of a pattern, how it shows up in daily life. What lies underneath becomes clearer during the identification session and the Un-Circling™ process.

What if I've been struggling with this issue for years?

Many of my clients felt the same way.

I personally struggled for more than thirty years before I discovered approaches that truly worked for me.

The length of time you've had a problem does not necessarily reflect how difficult it is to resolve.

Will I have to relive painful experiences?

Sometimes.

Much of the process is observing: you notice the expression your face settles into, hear what that layer wants to say, and it decides whether to stay or leave. Intensity varies from very subtle to quite strong. Near the end, the younger part you meet may offer to show you the moment a layer first formed. That is offered, never forced. You can pause at any time for a few minutes of grounding with my guidance, and then we continue.

In either case, your inner intelligence will only allow you to enter places you are ready to enter.

Will this take away my drive?

It is impossible to know in advance how your motivation might change. If it does, what you do about your work and your life stays your decision.

How long does a session take?

An Un-Circling™ session usually takes one to four hours. Please set aside the whole time without interruptions, avoid coffee beforehand, and plan nothing demanding afterwards so you can rest.

Do I need to keep coming back to you?

No. After the last session you receive a written guide so you can repeat Un-Circling™ yourself whenever you feel the need. I don't want you to depend on me. If you'd like company or support again, you're always welcome to book another session.

How do I know whether Un-Circling™ is right for me?

The first step is a free 20-minute Zoom call. You’re welcome to keep your camera off if that feels more comfortable.

I’ll ask you a few questions, and you can ask me anything you need to decide whether I’m the right person for you. I’ll tell you honestly whether I think Un-Circling™ fits your situation. There’s no obligation to continue.

Would you like to talk?

I’d like to hear what’s really going on.

I read every message myself, and I’ll reply within 24 hours.

And if now isn’t the time, that’s fine too. There’s no hurry.

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About me

I began this work because I needed help myself.

For the first 36 years of my life, I had no idea I could be genuinely happy. In fact, I was certain this life was meant to be hell.

After years of searching, I found approaches that helped me, and I began to share them with clients.

Later, through thousands of sessions of my own inner work, I found a different way to reach what was blocking my joy. That became Un-Circling™.

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